Hello lovelies, so today’s post is my 5 top tips for dealing with loneliness, simply because we all experience loneliness at one point or another, some of us more than others. I have a lot of friends living in London who are from all different countries around the world, and the one thing they all talk about is dealing with some kind of loneliness. Being far from loved ones, in a big city can bring up some feelings of loneliness, this cold weather doesn’t actually help much either. So here are some tips that have helped pull me out from that dreaded dark cloud.
1. Get out and connect with nature.
I know its cold out, and grey and sometimes raining so you’re probably thinking..forget that! Seriously though, there is nothing more therapeutic than taking a walk, breathing in the fresh air and just letting your thoughts float away with the wind. Scientists have actually proven that walking and connecting with nature can relieve all kinds of things like anxiety, stress and depression.I personally find that it helps stop me from being in my head too much and reminds me of how connected everything is. So what are you waiting for? Get out there and get your walk on!
2. Reach out to friends and family.
We have been conditioned to be ‘strong’ individuals and that showing vulnerability is a sign of weakness. I gotta tell you, that is a load of poppycock and actually something that really grinds my gears. Half the time we suffer in silence whilst putting on this mask to the world and pretending that everything is ok, when deep down our souls are crying out for help. Call a friend, talk to someone, don’t keep everything bottled up because that will only make things worse. My biggest life lesson so far, has been learning that its ok not to be ok, and asking for help is not a weakness.
3. Volunteer your time to a worthwhile cause.
Let me paint a picture for you….3 years ago, I was fresh out of a long term relationship and really sinking swiftly into depression. It was christmas time, so automatically it made everything 10x worse as I was now suddenly single and looking at facing my first xmas with a whole lot of heartbreak, regret and stacks of loneliness. I was dealing with feelings of shame, failure at the end of that relationship so I really wasn’t about to reach out to any of my friends/family to talk about what I was going through. I was wasting time online and stumbled upon the Crisis homeless charity website, and I found myself volunteering for their crisis at christmas program that helps get homeless people off the streets and tries to at least make their xmas a safe one, with food, shelter and help for moving forwards. I volunteered that year and it was THE best thing I ever did. Doing something to help other people, realising how blessed I truly was and I didn’t appreciate those little things in my life that we all take for granted, was certainly eye opening. I also met some AMAZING people who I now call my friends, and I’ve been going back every year ever since.
There are so many opportunities to volunteer, wether its just fr a couple of hours, a day, or long term. Get online, I like the DO-IT website that connect you with volunteering opportunities in your area. Do something to help others and you will be inadvertently helping yourself as well in the process.
4. Get Social!
Ah you’ve just got to get to socialising, get out of the house and go meet some likeminded people who share the same interests as you. I recently joined a really cool Meetup group that organises hiking day trips out of London, and i totally love it. I actually love that website as well because you can actually type in your interests and find other people who are into the same stuff as you. You can find your tribe on there and expand your social circle, which always helps;-). These days there’s a lot of opportunities to do exactly that, for example if you’re into fitness or are a runner, did you know that Nike regularly does some free fitness classes or run clubs, that you just sign up for and simply turn up? I think you get my drift now, all thats left for you to do is to be willing to venture out of your comfort zone a little bit. Its a little scary at first, but I can tell you right now that it is so worth it.
5. Dance like nobody is watching!!!!
Last but not least, this one is my personal favourite. Put on some music, turn it up really loud and dance like nobody is watching. This may sound super silly, but I promise you it works, don’t believe me? There’s actual studies that prove that there are numerous benefits to dancing. It’ll make you feel happy an produce endorphins that obviously contribute to that happiness. Try it and let me know what you think, there’s nothing like it.
There you have it beautiful people my personal 5 top tips for dealing with loneliness, I really want to know what YOU do when you’re feeling lonely, sad and anxious. Pop me a comment below, I can’t wait to read it. As always, don’t forget to live on YOUR terms and love the life you’re living! xoxo